I’ve detoxed off dating apps for a month. It actually feels amazing!
I wanted to work on myself without distractions. Imagine if I gave myself the same time and effort I’ve put into online dating. Let’s face it, the never ending cycle of men that don’t reply, sleazy come ons and small talk was exhausting.
Power is making decisions (The Outlaw King)
The first week off dating apps, I still needed a ‘hit’ from my phone. I was so used to checking it and notifications going off, I started messaging people more. I was proud of myself for starting conversations with people that I might not have if I was busy with dating apps. Then I realised…. I’m not chatting with ‘people’, I’m chatting with men. Single men. Single male friends. I’d just substituted Bumble for Messenger!
I eased off Messenger. Whatsapp became my next forum but at least I was communicating with girlfriends.
Matthew Hussey has some good advise on dating but also about being your best self. He set challenges for things to try….
The first time I walked past a good looking stranger- epic fail!
I found myself automatically looking down, or looking anywhere else, than directly at them.
As I live in an inner city, busy, beachside area there’s plenty of good looking strangers to practise on. Now that I’ve got my head held high and I’m trying to make eye contact, I may seem like a smiling psycho…..but I’m hoping it starts to become more natural!
I’m struggling with this one. I talk to strangers when I’m walking the dog and I’m nice but I don’t think that counts. I’ll have to keep an eye out for an opportunity.
I registered for Social Sixes (Cricket Victoria).
I didn’t go.
But I have lots of ideas for activities to try in the summer holidays.
Have I got fitter and healthier in the last month? No. I’ve drank more beer and eaten more chips than ever before.
Have I had a nice break from the dating merry-go-round, swiping R.S.I., bad spelling, mixed messages, and filthy suggestions? Yes. Let’s call it a success!